Is it Alright to be Sexy?

Is it alright to be sexy? Our society has so much judgment when it comes to a woman showing her sensuality. Why is this? I say it was based in the Puritan value system…

What is a woman to do if she enjoys this part of herself and is willing to share some intimacy?

Let’s get real… together… I strive for authenticity and transparency so you can see who I am inside and out. In fact, I think it is your duty as a human being to be who you are and express your individuality. An aspect of happiness is knowing and understanding who you are and what you are here to do.

There is intimacy in my personality and there is a feminine sensuality inside me too… What do I face for being me? The only thing I can think of is your judgment… well, I am happy… being me: open, authentic, sensual, and intimate with you.

Happiness is an intimate topic. Happiness is not a surface conversation; it is from your heart - an intimate place.

I am secure within myself and confident about myself so I remain unaffected by your judgment. It actually does not bother me. I return to the importance of being myself… what you see is what you get.

So yes, it is ok to be sexy if you feel sexy inside and feel comfortable in your authenticity and in your aim for transparency.

How many people have looked at my photos and smiled anyway? Probably a few, so that means happiness not only comes in the form of my verbal expression but also my physical appearance.

Let’s hear it for Happiness! Individuality! The Sexy Feminine! Acceptance! The True and Authentic Self! For Self-Confidence and High Self-Esteem! Non-Judgment! And Freedom of Expression…

Yes, it is ok to express myself… however I choose to. I ask you not to judge me for my sensual expression. I am not asking you to like it, just accept me for being me and I will accept you for being you.

Speak from your heart

Our society is stuck in their heads and lost touch with their hearts.

Do this exercise…

Step 1: Ask someone you know “What did you do today?”

They will respond most likely with activities or about what they accomplished on their to-do list or they will be very dry and boring and tell you how they went to work and so on… you get the idea.

Step 2: Ask the same person to place their hand on their heart and feel their heart and get in touch with their heart for a moment. Now, ask them to check in with their heart before they answer your next question. Ask them “What did you do today?”

Most likely they will tell you about feelings, interests, passions…

You will clearly see a difference. What would happen if everyone spoke from their heart? Would we be a society that cared more, that nurtured each other, who loved each other? I would like to see a world based on the love we have for our fellow human beings not a world who is protecting ourselves from each other…

The mind versus the heart. Please speak from the heart and show people that you care and love them… Didn’t someone famous say… love thy neighbor for a reason…

Am I the real deal? - Testimonials from my Community

When someone is outrageous and outspoken enough about something like happiness, I think it is validated when hearing other people's opinions. Below are a few testimonials from my community attesting that in fact, I walk my talk... I strive for authenticity and transparency in every area of my life.

If ever there was a "right person" for the job of spokesperson for happiness it would be Aymee. Aymee's the real deal. She walks the talk, and is an infinite source of happiness, joy and inspiration to everyone who's fortunate enough to cross her path and inevitably be touched by her. Aymee can put a person totally at ease and bring out the best in them. This can be seen in her interviewing style that has her subject reveal a playful, tender, open and honest side to them. There's a selflessness about Aymee that can be not just heard but felt in everything she does. Aymee is a person who truly cares about her fellow human beings, wants nothing but the best for us and is willing to do the work it takes to care for us asking nothing in return. It's hard to believe there's actually a person like that out there, but there is, and she's it.
-Morgan Anson, Web Developer and Art Director, San Francisco,CA

Aymee is the Queen of Happiness and her smile is contagious.
-Heidi Lloyd, Independent Film Maker, Chile

If anyone knows how to exude happiness, it's Aymee Coget. Aymee is fun, whole hearted, and witty. Ready to smile and laugh at any opportunity, Aymee will always inspire you to find the positive aspects in your life, and in life in general. She is a refreshing burst of happiness in your way, that most people just don't offer you.
-Jesse Seaver, Stand- Up Comedian, San Francisco,CA

Aymee is eccentric and out going. She likes to challenge society's established norms.
-Azure Kraxburger, M.A. Student, San Francisco, CA


Aymee has faith in happiness and is a prophet of positivity.
-Chris Struett, Lover of Life, San Francisco, CA

Aymee has great communication skills. She uses poignant words and has amazing eye contact. Her ability to connect to others through her words and gestures are both potent and graceful. The enormity of Aymee's positive influence has affected my life forever. I consider the time I met her to be apart of one of the most pivoting moments of my life; a moment that marks the time I was able to be with my fear in such a way that I could see clearly what I needed to do to live my dream as a successful artist and most importantly to be present in my journey of discovery.
-Tobias Tovera, Aspiring Artist, San Francisco, CA

Aymee is dynamic, positive, energetic, full of life and inspiring.
-Kerrie Halmi, Executive Coach and Trainer, Oakland,CA

Aymee is one of those rare individuals who just radiates warmth and openness. It's almost as if she just landed on this planet, completely trusting and positive. But she is also incredibly aware and sophisticated. What an amazing blend of qualities. And oh, who can forget that infectious broad beautiful smile. And, of course, Aymee is physically beautiful. Even though I think she actually is aware of how gorgeous she is, she seems at ease with her physical self. She seems to enjoy her beauty without arrogance or self-consciousness.
-Evie Hock, M.S.W., Therapist, San Francisco,CA


Aymee is exceptionally kind, warm and loving. She has a positive nature that inspires others and gives them the confidence to believe in themselves. She is highly articulate and intelligent, equally caring and empathetic. Aymee makes a strong and positive first impression. In spite of her incredible physical beauty -- she is really stunning -- she is very down to earth and unassuming. She is as beautiful inside as out. She is totally natural. When we met, she was so warm and "open." I immediately felt comfortable with her, and it seemed as we'd known one another already. Aymee radiates love. She imparted a very simple concept to me -- that happiness is a choice one makes every day. that's a very simple truth; but somehow, although I think I had heard it before, Aymee presented it in a way that has enabled me to absorb that realization... and it has had an amazingly positive effect on my life.

-Anonymous